Why We Should Celebrate Grief...
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Why We Should Celebrate Grief...
Today, October 15th, 2024.
I started a ritual: of celebrating losses, by making a celebratory cake.
And here’s why: I grew up fearing loss;
I dread fear and will always do everything I can, to fix things, people or just whatever it is I can do to not feel that emotion that 🖤 that comes with loss.
The despair. The shame. The regret.
It was this fear of loss that made me dread ending a toxic relationship.
The same fear of loss is the reason I never go for what I really want in life.
The same feeling grips me every time I try to pursue something big.
And as I write, the same fear is gripping the tiny upper skin of my fingers, as I write this.✍🏾
But here is what I found.
Read on in the comment…
And dear survivor, allow yourself to grief the loss of that abusive relationship or whatever it is.
Loss is okay. Loss is good and if we can reflect more than feel sad, there is a lot to be thankful for.
How are you going to grief moving forward?
Grief is what comes with losing something or someone.
This quarter, I have lost more than I have won and for the last 100 days, I have been emotionally exhausted.
Exhausted because trying again feels like a losing game after all.
But today, while reviewing a chapter of my manuscript- Unseen Scars of Stigma, a book 📕 coming to the @ideyforyou App in a few months:
Something struck me.
It was more like a question 🙋🏾♀️.
When was the last time you grieved?
It’s been a really long time, because I have developed effective coping skills- such as working out, 🏋🏾♀️ to handle my hurts.
But guess the revelation today?