The revelation is that, I could change how I feel about loss, starting today.
So, rather than feel sad and just practice self talk only to get out of that grieving phase, that I could make it a date.
📆 That I could bake a cake. 🍰
That way, I could send my brain to thinking differently about loss.
The thought further informs me that I should not only make this a once a year thing, but I could make a cake or treat myself to something special every week, when I get an email or a note 🗒️ or a call about losing something.
That when I begin to do this, that I would have successfully mastered the first principle of abundance- which is GRATITUDE 🙏🏾!
This is all the losses;
💚Toxic relationships lost.
💚To the good friends lost.
💚To the Obama Foundation scholarship lost.
💚To the PEOPLE scholarship lost
💚To the visa denial this year.
To the loss of time in the last three months.
To all the money lost.
To all the jobs lost.
To all the good memories lost l.
To losing a quarter of my academic career at Uchicago.
To over 3 years of lost parenting time with my kids.
💚To many more loses that won’t conquer me, but will make me stronger!
And dear survivor, allow yourself to grief the loss of that abusive relationship or whatever it is.
Loss is okay. Loss is good and if we can reflect more than feel sad, there is a lot to be thankful for.
How are you going to grief moving forward?
Grief is what comes with losing something or someone.
This quarter, I have lost more than I have won and for the last 100 days, I have been emotionally exhausted.
Exhausted because trying again feels like a losing game after all.
But today, while reviewing a chapter of my manuscript- Unseen Scars of Stigma, a book 📕 coming to the @ideyforyou App in a few months:
Something struck me.
It was more like a question 🙋🏾♀️.
When was the last time you grieved?
It’s been a really long time, because I have developed effective coping skills- such as working out, 🏋🏾♀️ to handle my hurts.
But guess the revelation today?
The revelation is that, I could change how I feel about loss, starting today.
So, rather than feel sad and just practice self talk only to get out of that grieving phase, that I could make it a date.
📆 That I could bake a cake. 🍰
That way, I could send my brain to thinking differently about loss.
The thought further informs me that I should not only make this a once a year thing, but I could make a cake or treat myself to something special every week, when I get an email or a note 🗒️ or a call about losing something.
That when I begin to do this, that I would have successfully mastered the first principle of abundance- which is GRATITUDE 🙏🏾!
This is all the losses;
💚Toxic relationships lost.
💚To the good friends lost.
💚To the Obama Foundation scholarship lost.
💚To the PEOPLE scholarship lost
💚To the visa denial this year.
To the loss of time in the last three months.
To all the money lost.
To all the jobs lost.
To all the good memories lost l.
To losing a quarter of my academic career at Uchicago.
To over 3 years of lost parenting time with my kids.
💚To many more loses that won’t conquer me, but will make me stronger!